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I seek approval and affirmation from others, and I am afraid of criticism. |
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| 2 |
I guess at what normal behavior is, and I usually feel as if I am different from other people. |
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| 3 |
I isolate myself from and am afraid of people in authority roles. |
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| 4 |
I am not able to appreciate my own accomplishments and good deeds. |
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| 5 |
I tend to have difficulty following a project through from beginning to end. |
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| 6 |
I get frightened or stressed when I am in the company of an angry person. |
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| 7 |
In order to avoid a conflict, I find it easier to lie than tell the truth. |
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| 8 |
I have problems with my own compulsive behavior, e.g., drinking, drug use, gambling, overeating, smoking, use of sex, shopping, etc. |
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| 9 |
I judge myself without mercy. I am my own worst critic, and I am harder on myself than I am on others. |
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| 10 |
I feel more alive in the midst of a crisis, and I am uneasy when my life is going smoothly; I am continually anticipating problems. |
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| 11 |
I have difficulty having fun. I don’t seem to know how to play for fun and relaxation. |
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| 12 |
I am attracted to others whom I perceive to have been victims, and I develop close relationships with them. In this way I confuse love with pity, and I love people I can pity and rescue. |
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| 13 |
I need perfection in my life at home and work, and I expect perfection from others in my life. |
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| 14 |
I seek out novelty, excitement, and the challenge of newness in my life with little concern given to the consequences of such action. |
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I take myself very seriously, and I view all of my relationships just as seriously. |
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| 16 |
I have problems developing and maintaining intimate relationships. |
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| 17 |
I feel guilty when I stand up for myself or take care of my needs first, instead of giving in or taking care of others’ needs first. |
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| 18 |
I seek and/or attract people who have compulsive behaviors (e.g., alcohol, drugs, gambling, food, shopping, sex, smoking, overworking, or seeking excitement.) |
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| 19 |
I feel responsible for others and find it easier to have concern for others than for myself. |
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| 20 |
I am loyal to people for whom I care, even in the face of evidence that the loyalty is undeserved. |
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| 21 |
I cling to and will do anything to hold on to relationships because I am afraid of being alone and fearful of being abandoned. |
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| 22 |
I am impulsive and act too quickly, before considering alternative actions or possible consequences. |
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| 23 |
I have difficulty in being able to feel or to express feelings; I feel out of touch with my feelings. |
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| 24 |
I mistrust my feelings and the feelings expressed by others. |
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| 25 |
I isolate myself from other people, and I am initially shy and withdrawn in new social settings. |
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| 26 |
I feel that I am being taken advantage of by individuals and society in general; I often feel victimized. |
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| 27 |
I can be over-responsible much of the time, but I can be extremely irresponsible at other times. |
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| 28 |
I feel confused and angry at myself and not in control of my environment or my life when the stresses are great. |
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| 29 |
I spend a lot of time and energy rectifying or cleaning up my messes and the negative consequences of ill-thought-out or impulsive actions for which I am responsible. |
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| 30 |
I deny that my current problems stem from my past life. I deny that I have stuffed-in feelings from the past which are impeding my current life. |
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Svetlana Pritzker, M. Ed. is an author and a spiritual teacher who supports people in living life that matches their dreams and responsibilities.
